33 Reasons to Stop Watching Porn, Masturbating, Jacking Off, and Fapping
UPDATE: Read at your own discretion and COME TO YOUR OWN CONCLUSION. Sources and studies are provided to provide further research into claims made in this article. Masturbation is a taboo subject for everyone and there hasn’t been enough focused research and studies in this particular area – something certain to become an area of heavy focus in the future. THIS ARTICLE IS ONLY FOR THOSE WHO ARE ADDICTED TO PORN AND MASTURBATION and feel like it’s out of hand (no pun intended), interfering with, and controlling their life. This is a source of help and guidance for those seeking it. IF THIS ARTICLE OFFENDS YOU AND YOU’RE RUDE OR DISRESPECTFUL ABOUT IT, YOUR COMMENTS WILL NOT BE APPROVED. If you politely disagree and you have manners, then your comments are welcome.
This article focuses on the perceived effects of excessive and chronic masturbation and sexual intercourse compared to masturbation.
What’s Always Been Said About Masturbation
Masturbation has been highly debated in the past and STILL IS – is masturbation beneficial or not? Is it healthy or unhealthy? Is it something to be ashamed of or proud of?
Most doctors recommend daily masturbation for stress relief, relaxation, to remain sexually healthy, and to keep a healthy prostate – and the majority of us follow the doctor’s orders. BUT over the last few years, I’ve started noticing that MAYBE A FEW THINGS ARE BEING OVERLOOK, AND EVEN, MISSED about masturbation’s potential harmful effects on the brain and body.
So after 2 years of researching and experimenting, some of the hypothetical and theoretical things I’ve read and learned about this “harmless” daily habit that most of us are addicted to are nothing short of startling. Once again, this is the stuff I’ve discovered and that I believe to be along the lines of truth.
This information has changed the life of thousands of men and women and I’m sure it will help you too.
Just so you know, some of the shocking content in this article hasn’t even began to scratch the surface of what many others are discovering about masturbation’s harmful effects. Some are even hypothesizing that this habit may possibly cause permanent damage to parts of your brain! No joke!
Is it coincidental professional athletes all over the world are advised to stay away from sex and masturbation before an event or game requiring their best performance? Is it coincidental men who practice abstinence for months at a time report feeling more alert, clear headed, and on top of their game? There might be something to it.
Are There Really Benefits of Constant Masturbation?
This Men’s Health Article says masturbation prevents cancer, it makes you harder, it helps you last longer, it helps your immune system, and it boosts your mood.
I’ve noticed almost the exact opposite and come to the conclusion that excessive masturbation can have MANY negative side effects on your brain, body, and behavior and it affects your results NOT ONLY with women and dating, but with everything in your life. Also, not all doctors agree masturbation prevents prostate cancer. (More on that in #31)
1. Masturbation Affects Your Brain Differently than Sex
Sex affects your brain differently than masturbation. Here’s what I’ve found and how I understand it:
Oxytocin, commonly called the “love hormone” or “cuddle hormone” plays an important part in intimacy.
“Oxytocin is thought to be released during bonding – hugging, touching, and orgasm in both sexes. In the brain, oxytocin is involved in social recognition and bonding, and may be involved in the formation of trust between people and generosity.” –PsycheCentral
According to this study, Oxytocin is released into your brain 4 times as much during sex than during masturbation:
“Researchers once assumed thatbiomarkers are no different during solo sex than they are during intercourse—but this is untrue. Doctors Stuart Brody and Tillman Krüger found that orgasm during intercourse releases four times more Prolactin than masturbation. Since Oxytocin appears to trigger the release of Prolactin, it’s quite possible that Oxytocin released by intimacy accounts for the higher Prolactin levels during intercourse.”
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Prolactin was once thought to only be found in females to trigger breast milk production, but not only is it found in males, it is essential to their sexual health. Prolactin makes us feel satiated by countering the effect of Dopamine, which is released during sexual arousal.”
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Brain scans conducted on subjects suffering from porn and masturbation addictions reveal the reward centres of the brain are actually changed.
“Until recently, scientists believed our brains were fixed, their circuits formed and finalised in childhood, or “hardwired”. Now we know the brain is “neuroplastic”, and not only can it change, but that it works by changing its structure in response to repeated mental experience.”
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The idea behind Neuroplasticity is we have neural pathways in our brain that are literally carved or formed through repeated behavior. When the behavior stops or changes, the pathways change. We are even discovering that the brain seems to light up the same way in response to masturbation as it does with drugs.
Dr. Marty Klein explains:
“…when so-called sex addicts are involved in sex (for example, when watching pornography), the part of their brain that lights up (the mesolimbic pathway) is the same part that lights up when a heroin addict has injected heroin.”
2. Masturbation (and Porn) Ruins Dopamine Levels and Leads to Addiction
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter (a chemical released by nerve cells to send signals to other nerve cells) and it plays a huge role in the part of our brain that is responsible for REWARD-MOTIVATED behavior.
Masturbation is a reward-motivated behavior – so is doing drugs, gambling, eating, sex, and seeking approval. These behaviors cause dopamine to flood your brain and make you feel good.
When you watch porn and masturbate, it’s like giving your brain a giant piece of candy! THIS IS MASTURBATION IS ADDICTIVE. Just like drugs, the more the more you masturbate, the more your brain becomes “used to” and desensitized to the effects of Dopamine and the more you crave just to “get off” and keep that amazing feeling coming back!
“Dopamine is the “go get it” neurochemical essential for libido, risk-taking, motivation, focus, and anticipation and cheerfulness. In other words, a decline in dopamine signaling is associated with all of these: Diminished libido, which is a possible cause of sluggish erections, Decreased risk-taking and increased anxiety, combined with a tendency toward angry overreaction, any of which can decrease willingness to socialize, Inability to focus, which can account for concentration and memory problems, and Lack of motivation and healthy anticipation, which can lead to apathy, procrastination, and even play a role in depression. Or to state it all more positively: When dopamine and related neurochemicals are properly regulated, sexual attraction, socializing, concentration and feelings of well-being are more effortless. We suspect that a return to normal dopamine signaling helps explain why many guys report the same improvements as they unhook from excessive consumption of Internet porn.”
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3. Masturbating Kills Your Dopamine Receptors
Since addictive behavior and too much of anything OVERSTIMULATES our brain and desensitizes it to the effects of Dopamine, it leads to something called “downregulation” of the Dopamine Receptors. Dopamine Receptors are the “feelers” in our brain when Dopamine is released. They “detect” the Dopamine that makes us feel really good.
Over stimulation, or masturbating too much, causes these “feelers” to be overworked and not do their job as good as they used to. They become “numb” and less sensitive and receptive to Dopamine. Also known as “Desensitization”. That’s why if you used to “get off” to seeing simple stuff like boobs bouncing up and down while you masturbated, it probably no longer does the job or satisfies you. NOW you’re searching for dirtier, nastier, and crazier porn than you’ve ever seen because you need something more intense just so your Dopamine Receptors can “detect” or “sense” Dopamine in your brain and make you feel good! Women have even told me about straight guys watching GAY PORN because it’s the only thing that gets them off now!
Once you become “desensitized”, only your addictive behavior gets you off or “hits the spot”. And it only gets worse…
When you keep masturbating and pounding these Dopamine receptors over and over to try to get them to feel something, they start dying. Yes you end up killing them! The more you kill, the crazier and more addictive your behavior can gets! Some guys have to masturbate 10 – 20 times a day just to feel “satisfied”because they’re SO ADDICTED.
SOURCES:
- Overstimulation and Desensitization — How Civilization Affects Your Brain
- Desensitization: A Numbed Pleasure Response
- Dopamine Is _________
- Understanding Addiction
4. Masturbation Kills Your Interest Sex
Besides killing Dopamine Receptors and developing the need to constantly watch porn and masturbate, excessive masturbation causes loss of interest in sexual intercourse.
Masturbation addiction can cause your girlfriend or wife to not do the job anymore. You’re not as “turned on” with them as you are a porn star on your phone or computer screen.
Playboy Bunny named Izabella St James said Hugh Hefner would watch porn and masturbate to get off AFTER having sex with multiple “Playboy Model” girls. He was living every man’s dream and he had to watch porn and masturbate to get off! Something is very wrong with that picture.
“In her book, Bunny Tales: Behind Closed Doors at the Playboy Mansion, Izabella St James, who was one of Hugh Hefner’s former “official girlfriends”, described sex with Hef. Hef, in his late 70s, would have sex twice a week, sometimes with four or more of his girlfriends at once, St James among them. He had novelty, variety, multiplicity and women willing to do what he pleased. At the end of the happy orgy, wrote St James, came “the grand finale: he masturbated while watching porn”.”
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Since masturbation is the ONLY THING that gets these men off, they’d rather masturbate to images and videos of women than to have sex with actual women and a lot of marriages end in divorce because of the husbands masturbation problem.
On top of losing interest in sex, you can lose interest in things like academic success, achieving goals, and making things happen. This is where too much masturbation becomes a huge problem because it interferes with your life.
5. Masturbation Leaves You Feeling Tired, “Used Up”, and Unproductive
Since your brain, theoretically, only creates so much Dopamine, if you use it up on excessive masturbating to fulfill your brain’s craving and need for pleasure, it can leave you feeling “all used up” and worthless after masturbating.
Dr. N.K. Lin – sexual health expert:
“Since dopamine is the precursor to the stress hormone epinephrine (adrenaline), excess dopamine results in the adrenal glands overproducing epinephrine and putting the body in a prolonged state of fight-or-flight stress. At the same time, norepinephrine is synthesized from dopamine and released from the adrenal medulla into the blood as a hormone, along with the stress hormone cortisol. Epinephrine, norepinephrine and cortisol fuel the fight-or-flight response, directly increasing heart rate, triggering the release of glucose from energy stores, and increasing blood flow to skeletal muscle. All of this has a severely taxing effect on the body.”
This taxing effect on your body makes you feel unmotivated, tired, depressed, and full of anxiety. Your brain goes through a lot during periods of porn and masturbation and when it’s all over, you’re left feeling tired and drained. You lose the desire to do anything productive and you may just want to sleep all day. It definitely doesn’t make you feel like a winner.
6. Masturbation Makes You Feel Like A Loser
A few minutes after ejaculation, you’re sitting there wondering why you feel embarrassed and kind of like a loser for what you just did. You’re wondering what your family, friends, co-workers, and even complete strangers would think if they knew you constantly looked at porn and masturbated. You’re wondering how embarrassed you would be if someone CAUGHT YOU in the act!
Masturbation makes you feel like a loser because you’re watching OTHER GUYS have sex with the women you wish you could have sex with! But you’re not THAT GUY in the pictures or video with that beautiful woman. Instead, you’re a guy holding your penis in your hand and pumping it like a monkey while sitting in front of a phone, magazine, or a computer screen.
This guy got caught masturbating and if it wasn’t that big of a deal, he wouldn’t have gotten so angry.
7. Watching Porn and Masturbating Can Be Seen As Creepy, Perverted, and Weird
Theoretically – when you watch porn, you’re watching two or more people THAT YOU DON’T KNOW in an intimate and private moment. IF YOU DID know them, it would be very weird or creepy by society’s standards.
Would it be weird if a creepy guy sat outside of your window with his pants down grunting, moaning, and masturbating while he watched while you having sex? When it comes down to it, is there much of a difference when you do it other than you’re actually not sitting outside of someone’s window?
You’re watching an act most humans consider extremely private and you’re pleasuring yourself to it happening. This doesn’t cross your mind when masturbating and viewing porn, but that’s maybe because you don’t think about it.
8. Masturbation Creates Strong Feelings of Guilt and Shame
On a primal level, 99.9% of people wouldn’t masturbate in front of other people because they don’t want to be seen as aloser, or a pervert.
Those who are out of control with masturbating always have it in the back of their mind. They wonder if others know, if they’ve caught on, or if their family, wife, or kids have an idea that they masturbate so often. It’s like being locked in a jail cell of guilt and paranoia that follows you around. Having this in the back of your mind creates unnecessary stress you don’t need. You have enough to worry about in your day to day life besides being unable to control your masturbation habit.
This feeling is becoming more and more common among thousands of men:
“I’m not sure how to say this so I’ll just say it. I masturbate at least twice a day. Whenever I finish, I feel a profound sense of shame about it and I feel terrible for like an hour. Sometimes the shame even ruins my day. Everything I’ve read says masturbation is normal for guys, yet I can’t get past these feelings of shame and self-hatred. I feel like I should be able to exercise more willpower and stop myself when I feel the urge, but the truth is I like it and I don’t want to stop. And I’m not hurting anybody (except myself, I guess), so why should I? Do I have a problem? Why do I feel so bad about doing something that is supposedly normal? I’m not in a relationship, if that matters at all.”
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9. Masturbating Kills Your Interest In Being Social
If you lose interest in being social, networking, and making friends, it’s a BIG PROBLEM.
When you meet, attract, and date women or simply interact with others, your brain releases Dopamine and you feel pleasured and rewarded by it. If you desensitize your brain and kill your Dopamine Receptors to the effects of Dopamine by constantly masturbating, them being social, making friends, having conversations, and meeting women will be boring, uninteresting, unrewarding, and you’ll only want to stay inside all day… masturbating.
Before you know it, the opportunity to have a great dating life passes you by because because you chose to reward yourself with porn and masturbation than making friends and having a great social life.
10. Masturbation Kills Satisfaction from the Small Things in Life
Your brain releases dopamine throughout your entire day. Riding a roller coaster, skydiving, going out and having fun, playing sports, or doing anything enjoyable causes your brain to release Dopamine so you feel good and “rewarded”.
If your Dopamine receptors are weak or dead and can’t detect normal levels of Dopamine, you’ll see the things that make most people happy dull, boring, and unrewarding.
11. TESTOSTERONE Levels Decrease When You Masturbate Too Much
What do we need Testosterone for? Is it important?
You bet your sweet ass it is…
To begin with, Testosterone is a vital steroid hormone THAT WE ABSOLUTELY NEED as men.
“In men, testosterone plays a key role in the development of male reproductive tissues such as the testis and prostate as well as promoting secondary sexual characteristics such as increased muscle, bone mass, and the growth of body hair. In addition, testosterone is essential for health and well-being[2] as well as the prevention of osteoporosis.”
Not only does it play a MAJOR ROLE IN OUR HEALTH but it’s very important in sexual functioning.
Now you can argue that Testosterone levels can also be affected by sexual intercourse and not just masturbation, right?
According to some of the stuff I’ve found, not exactly…
Our brain is astoundingly complex and studies show that our brain reacts DIFFERENTLY to having actual sex than it does masturbation.
Studies also show that men who have tons of sex aren’t left feeling drained, tired, and worthless over the next few days and that their Testosterone levels increase following sexual intercourse with women.
“There are many reasons, but chief among them is undoubtedly the fact that researchers have uncovered the fact that sex is actually an excellent way to boost testosterone. That’s right – it’s time to party! For example, one 1992 study examined four couples on days that they did and didn’t have sexual activity. As you can probably guess, they found that testosterone levels increased on nights after sexual activity and did not on nights where there was no intercourse.”
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“In 2003, a Case Study was done on the effects on males in abstaining from masturbation and testosterone levels. In a nutshell, the study found that testosterone levels increased gradually between days 1 through 5 when abstaining from ejaculation. But, and this is the big ‘BUT’, on days six and seven, the testosterone levels saw a HUGE spike (up to 147% increase in body testosterone levels). After day 7, the testosterone levels returned
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